06 October 2014
“Socializing is more positive than being alone, that’s why meetings are so popular. People don’t like being alone. That would be, however, an important skill to learn...”
― Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
The world is filled with introverts and extroverts and both have their own ways of socializing. Extroverts tend to have more energy and get along with people easily, while introverts tend to take things more calmly and slowly. Whether you are either of the two, at times there can be situations where people find it difficult and it can feel like a scary thing to do. From the time we were little we've been pushed to speak up and talk to others, but some kids still grow up naturally shy and that's completely natural. Interacting with people makes you feel good even if it took a hard time to try and talk to someone. As a shy extrovert myself, if things are taken slowly and calmly it can have very good results in the end and it makes me feel good with myself as well!
Step out of your bubble: It's quite comfortable staying in your little safe and intact bubble, but there are times when loneliness takes over and it isn't a good feeling. If you want to share the joy of interacting, then try popping your bubble of isolation. Talk to people. Take it slowly though and you can find people who have similarities or the same ideas as you. Relax and don't let anxiety get to you interacting with people. Taking things slowly helps a lot because who knows, maybe the person you're talking to may be shy or an introvert as well. Talking to people and having fun while doing it, is completely worth it.
Start up the conversation: For extroverts, they can be found to interact with people more easily and if you are in this category then try reaching to those people who find it difficult to start off the conversation. At first it can be really awkward, but you're gonna have to get through the awkwardness someday.
It's hard, but worth it: Sometimes, we can get anti-social and want to have a break from people, so we stray away from socializing. That can drive away the comfortably with interactions and make it harder for people to interact next time. Go and talk with people with your own comfort level, because as soon as you realize it, it gets quite fun and it makes you feel good happy to spend time with people you enjoy!
Socializing should be handled with care because you don't want to be accidentally talking to a person that makes you feel bad. Those people are not worth your time, and you want to put yourself in an environment that makes you happy and that doesn't put you down. Having someone to talk to, can ease boredom and can bring joy. Conversations can lead to smiles and laughter, so try talking to more and more people because all in all talking and socializing with as much as people as you can is a good feeling to know inside.
An answer to a problem won't always be transparent, but it can be found by you. Don't Worry, Be Happy!
